Blog - Lara Wolf

The Story of Our Own Helplessness

The story of our own helplessness can be tempting—it gives us permission to abdicate responsibility for our own lives. It can keep us in a checkmate position, feeling helpless and stuck as we wait for someone or something to save us.

There are always grains of truth in our stories of powerlessness. Certain aspects of our lives are certainly beyond our control. At the same time, however, we must come to realize just how much of our lives is actually within our control.

Our greatest ally is a healthy mindset.

Sometimes the crucial question is how we can stop contributing to our own suffering. At other times, we must ask ourselves what we can do for ourselves right now. Not this year, this month, or this week—but right at this very moment.

Sometimes it comes down to the basics, which we tend to forget in our pain. When was the last time we drank water, ate a nutritious meal, or got a good night’s sleep?

Sometimes we need to ask ourselves if we’re being honest with ourselves. And also, where we’re giving up our power. How can we get it back? I know, it sounds much easier than it is. Because…

People often wander in the dark. We’ve all been deeply shaped by the circumstances of our lives, our childhoods, our realizations, and our experiences. But even though we can’t change the circumstances of the past, we always have the option to change our attitude toward the present.

The transition from a story of helplessness rarely happens in a single, big step. Most often, it begins with a small realization that we have a choice and that we are not alone in this darkness. With every small change—whether we listen to our bodies, set a boundary, or speak our truth aloud—we return to our own power, step by step.